How to Survive a Breakup in Three Steps: Escape, Heal, Return
“While mustering the courage to end a bad relationship is critical, getting over a breakup is equally important,” said Justo A. Diaz, the new CEO of www. BreakUpService. com, offering break up advice.
Los Angeles, CA (PRWEB) January 25, 2010
“While mustering the courage to end a bad relationship is critical, getting over a breakup is equally important,” said Justo A. Diaz, the new CEO of www. BreakUpService. com, offering break up advice. Under its previous ownership, the site was a paid service that would end relationships on behalf of its clients. Diaz and his partners believed it could be much more. “A break up is a window to the rest of your life,” he said. “You escape fearfulness, heal the pain, and return to the game a stronger person. We’re committed to focusing on the traits of a healthy relationship.”
Dr. Michael Salce is Chief Psychological Consultant to BreakUpService, and author of a relationship advice column for the magazine. “Personally, I see this online magazine as an opportunity to simplify the emotional process of breaking up,” he said. “Other sites either help you break up or analyze a situation, but they don’t acknowledge the simplicity of the issues, or highlight the opportunities that are present. The problem with psychology is complicating matters that can be made simple, which can make positive action more likely.
Complicating matters is also an excuse to wait. It’s paralysis by analysis, when it should empower all of us to stand on our own, as well as be supported by our friends.” Salce said he was also drawn to BreakUpService. com by Diaz’s vision of entertainment with the advantage of having a responsible perspective on emotional well-being. “People rarely give themselves enough credit in surviving the termination of an important relationship. People are extremely resilient and have an enormous capacity for self-improvement and for making meaningful new connections. Breakups are normal, so rather than dwell on the one bad connection, or help people simply end a bad relationship, we’re changing the game and hopefully inspiring people to reevaluate the possibility of connecting.”
Diaz added that BreakUpService does not limit its subject matter to romance. “Relationships of all kinds can come to an end – romantic, platonic, business partnerships – and it can all be traumatic,” he said. “Regardless of the circumstances, our readers can see themselves in one of three stages – Escape, Heal, or Return – and develop a plan of action to get through the process.”
Diaz’s “plan of action” for BreakUpService. com involves an ambitious array of content overseen by Editor-in-Chief Hesh Rephun. “We’ve collaborated on a number of creative projects,” said Rephun, “and it was clear that Justo was passionate about developing a different kind of relationship advice column. That was the mandate.” Contributing authors and their topics run the gamut, from romance to bromance, and the site is prepping an online video series called “PokerBUS”™ that gives men a chance to hash out relationship issues around a poker table. “Guys sometimes have a tough time opening up, but we thrive on competition,” Rephun mused. “When we shot the first episode, we had no idea how it would play out, but it was awesome and at times we hit some pretty powerful nerves.”
“Yeah, we mixed it up a little bit,” recalled Salce, who was at the first game. “What impressed me was everyone’s willingness to jump in. Ultimately, we want our readers to practice courage. When you reach a certain level of courageousness, you don’t need BreakUpService anymore. You’re compelled to share that bravery with others, you might find yourself writing for the site instead of sending in a letter. Thinking of someone other than yourself is actually an ongoing healing process. We look forward to seeing our relationships with readers evolve as their lives progress.”
“All of us go through breakups of one kind or another,” Diaz concluded. “We want people to know that we all get back into the game, and that the game can be different next time.”
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